The B word and its influence


I love how the older I get, the more that people are accepting June as Pride month all over the country. It makes my heart so happy, and it was this time two years ago that I officially came out as bisexual to friends and family.

I won’t bore you with the details because I have discussed my coming out on multiple platforms, so instead I want to reflect on the past two years and how far I have come as a person, especially in this past year.

The first year I came out, I was still tiptoeing around the idea of my family knowing, so I had spent a lot of time not trying to be so open about it in case it just irritated my family any. I’d drop the occasional gay joke/saying here and there but nothing more.

But throughout the past year, I have fully embraced the bisexual community. I have much stronger feelings for the community than ever before because I have realised more and more just how biphobic the rest of society can be. I was discussing this with a friend the other day (who is lesbian) and we spoke about how Gays and Transexuals are always receiving positive representation and they are always mentioned with a strong sense of “equality for gay/trans people!” Gay people not as much, in my opinion, but definitely the trans community. Now, I’m not criticising this by any means, but it did spark a question in my mind.

Why don’t bisexual people get this kind of encouragement?

I say I spoke to a friend about this the other day, but in reality this discussion has been one I have been having with myself since last summer. It has been in my thoughts so much that I am even basing my Masters degree on it; Is There Any Positive Representation of Bisexuals in Film and TV?

And let me tell you, I have committed myself to this research. But it doesn’t just stop at film and tv, it continues all the way through to society and how people interact with those who identify as bisexual. While my research is still in motion and I have much to learn, I am feeling quite confident with how it’s going.

Through doing this research I have actually made connections with people I never thought I would at this point in my career/life. I am creating a pride campaign for a Bisexual meet-up group, and I am in the early stages of connecting with a member of Bi Pride UK, and while I’m unsure where my relationship with this person will go; I know that it is a step in the right direction at least.

What I really want to do, is to help promote healthy bisexual thinking through the form of film. It is a topic that is close to my heart, and the past two years have helped me become even closer to this feeling.

I did go on a bit of a tangent with this post, but if I want anyone to take anything away from this, is that there are opportunities for amazing things once you find a passion for something and you truly go for it. I never expected to be making these connections, I was just thinking of reaching out to productions companies. But by reaching out to communities that I am passionate about, I am now helping with making content for a cause that is so important to me.

If you’re passionate about something, find that other ‘thing’ you are passionate about and see how you can blend the two together. You might just find something that takes you down interesting routes.

Until next time B.A.B’s

R xoxo